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Pregnant and considering adoption? 

Then get some expert advice on considering adoption or considering open adoption from moms who have surrendered babies. 

Considering Adoption - Things I Wish I had Known

Top ten reasons why pro-adoption is NOT pro-life:

1) There may be orphaned children in the world, but the children that get adopted are usually healthy newborn babies removed (if ever so cunningly) from family members that love them.

2) Separating babies from their mothers soon after birth is very traumatic for both of them. The baby develops insecurities, the mother suffers.

3) Every baby who has ever been adopted was already born and not in danger of abortion.

4) Many women who would prefer to keep their babies feel forced into abortions when their options are limited to only adoption and abortion.

5) People should not have to go through their lives feeling like a science experiment, deprived of access to or information about their family just to make adopters feel secure as "parents".

6) It's distressing for mothers who loved their babies to hear their children later thanking them for "giving life" - as if it were some dreaded chore. For many moms the time spent with their child was a very special time for them - it was having their child removed from them that caused anguish.

7) If adoption is such a "positive option", then presumably adopters should also be delighted to have the opportunity to "give up" their children if they should happen to get divorced or lose their job.

8) Lots of people are "waiting to adopt - but what does that have to do with what's right for some other family?

9) Some people claim that earthly adoptions are said to give us a glimpse of the more perfect eternal adoption through our spirits with our heavenly Father, God. (What are they talking about? I don't recall God separating single moms and babies to get babies for adoption - Mary was single when Jesus was born and they got to stay together. In the Bible, Mary was never called the derogatory terms "birth object*" or "unwed mother" either before or after her precious baby was born.)

10) With "open" adoption: the child would not have to witness their mother, father, siblings and grandparents being kept "in their place" by the adoptive buyers if she had not been adopted; she would not have to be jealous of the kept siblings, wondering why she was discarded.


Adoption promoters are trying to get people who were adopted to encourage moms to surrender babies. Hmm. Maybe some people who were adopted were raised to believe that it just makes sense to trade family members for wealth? Or that only people who buy babies can possibly love them? Or maybe adoptees want their own sons and daughters to be taken from them at birth and sold to people who are infertile due to drug use, overweight, smoking, STDs, waiting too long....or sold to people who are gay.

Lots of people can really USE a baby - a nice healthy adorable little baby for adoption.


* "Birth object" - Includes all derogatory terms used to diminish the value of family and get babies for adoption. Examples include "dear birthmother", "dear birthparent", "birthparent" "birthparents" "birthmothers, "birthfather", "birthmom", "birth son", "birth daughter", "birth grandparents" "birth relatives" "biological mother", "unwed mothers" etc.

Concern about Infant Abductions

One of the many problems with increasing infertility - an increase infant abductions from hospitals:
http://www.utmb.edu/ERC/selfstud/infantab/indexinf.htm

 "Abductions" of naive people's offspring through surrogacy, sperm donation or egg donation, embryo adoption or infant adoption is also harmful, denying people's human rights.  

Some information on adoption, the history of adoption and adoption reunion:

What the adopted child - or rather adult adoptee may say about adoption later.

More adopted children - or rather adult adoptees - tell of their realities.

Mothers used to provide babies for adoption, both open and closed adoptions.

Personal adoption stories, "birthmom" stories,  "birthmother" stories, "birthparent" stories*

How Open Adoption is used by agencies, lawyers, doctors and other individuals to lure people into adoption.

A mother's "personal response" to "Birthmothers Day" - honoring women as breeders of babies to be used for adoption.

 

Natural mothers and adoptees speaking out about adoption.

Outcomes of Open Adoption for the natural family.

Domestic Infant Adoption articles and information.

Open Sealed Adoption Records

If you are a mother who has lost her child to adoption, please sign the petition at Mothers for Open Records Everywhere.

Mothers  for Open Records for Adoptees.   No 'birthmothers' or "birthparent" confidentiality or privacy promised or desired.

Open Adoption.  Open adoption is being promoted in a big way in America.  What should women who are single and pregnant, grandparents-to-be and prospective adopters know about "open adoption"?

Open adoption is being used as a way of getting more babies for adoption. There are businesses that make money - or get donations - for the "charitable" work of getting babies for their customers.   Pregnant women are offered the 'option of adoption' as if it were candy.  The truth about the effects of separation on moms and their newborns is hidden from them. 

Following is a summary of the known consequences of separating mothers and babies:

Closed Adoption - Consequences of Separating Moms and Babies

Open Adoption Consequences   the Wall

If people who adopt were real heros, they would look for a true orphan and treat her with same love they would give their own child.  Instead, people who adopt nearly always look for the healthy infant or young child of their "dreams". 

In "open adoption" prospective adopters are usually selected long before the baby is even born - before a mother has a chance to think.  This makes the mother feel beholden to the prospective adopters.  Moms are called "heros" or "saints" for surrendering their own infant sons and daughters so other people can use them. 

Some mothers later find separation from their children so much more painful than they ever could have imagined that they commit suicide. 

Referred to by the dehumanizing terms "birthmothers", "birthparents", "birthmoms" ("birth objects", not "mothers"), no one seems to care if these very real human beings commit suicide or have to work hard not to commit suicide.

People who adopt may divorce.  People who are single are free to adopt.  There is no good reason to tear family members apart just because a mother is single when her baby is born - Mary the mother of Jesus was also single, young and less affluent.  

Open adoption is being used as a way of getting more babies for adoption. There are businesses that make money - or get donations - for the "charitable" work of getting babies for their customers.   Pregnant women are offered the 'option of adoption' as if it were candy.

PLEASE READ the following:

Embryo Adoption Study  Flawed


Domestic Adoption Baby 
Baby Boom Exploiting Women and Families in America

Choose Life License Plates are Misleading

Why Solicitation to Obtain Babies for Adoption
Must Be Outlawed

Bush Admin Pushes Grabbing Babies From Poor Women So Wealthy Can Adopt 

Adoption Ethics  - An Oxymoron



Adoption - Is Heritage A Human Right?

Adoption vs. Abortion  - Myths Debunked

We need no more families separated to get babies for adoption.

Protect Natural Family!

Here is a link to the most important blog. 

An open letter to the new  Pope, Pope Benedict XVI about embryo adoption.

Protect Natural Family!

American Adoptions

"As American as mom and apple pie," is one familiar saying.  But is mom really important to Americans?  With American adoptions, mom is being replaced by an unrelated person.  With domestic adoptions, babies are being transferred to those who can afford "adoption services" designed to get them babies to adopt. 

Thanks to adoption agencies and adoption attorneys providing "adoption services" which include "open adoption" there are more babies for adoption in United States.

"As American as mom and apple pie," is one familiar saying.  But is mom really important to Americans? 

If mom was important, we wouldn't have so many "Dear Birthmother" letters soliciting for babies for adoption. 

If mom was important, we wouldn't have so many "Dear Birthmother" letters soliciting for healthy babies for adoption. 

If we valued true motherhood, we wouldn't have American adoptions where the mom commits suicide. 

"As American as mom and apple pie," is one familiar saying.  But is mom really important to Americans? With domestic adoptions, babies are being transferred to those who can afford "adoption services" designed to get them babies to adopt.  It's a tragedy.

Teen Parenting

"My brother is featured this month in 'Teen Parenting' magazine," a friend said to me. It took a while for her words to sink in. She was PROUD of her brother, a teen father. Later I met the whole family and they were all proud of him and his little girl. The love in that family was amazing.

Contrast that with the current push by George W. Bush to get more babies for adoption. Babies have been obtained for adoption even while the dads were away serving their country in Iraq. Did the dads get a "choice"? In reality, when 'adoption' is pushed so heavily the moms and their families don't get a real 'choice' either. How are they supposed to be able to compare the joy of a new grandchild with the loss of a family member to adoption when only 'happy' adoption stories are being told? Embarrassed about an unexpected pregnancy, grandparents-to-be may believe the "unwed mother" stereotypes and not recognize that this beautiful new baby is their own grandchild.

"Pro-life" - they have been taught - means welcoming a new baby into an adoptive home. They may never even consider the joy welcoming a baby into his own family!

Later, they will have years to wonder - why didn't they just keep their grandson and help their son or daughter out?

Promoting a "culture of adoption" may get more babies for people who are infertile or gay to adopt but the "culture of adoption" - sometimes called a "culture of life" does nothing for real families. And now people are even being solicited for their sperm and eggs for others to use!

Why not refer to it all as a "culture of orphans"!

In "Not by Choice" it is explained how maternity homes and thought reform (brainwashing) helped obtain more babies for adoption in the "baby scoop" era.

Today the adoption baby market is growing. Domestic infant adoption numbers are up, no thanks to all the "Dear Birthmother" and "Dear Birthparent" letters and solicitation for babies to adopt.

With all that is known by experts about the ill effects of separating family and of the secrecy in adoption, it remains that adoption is a very lucrative business. Thanks to lobbying efforts we now have government funding for Infant Adoption Awareness training, maternity homes, adoption counseling, subsidies and other aid for adopters, and so-called "safe havens" where a frightened mother unsure of how to get real help may leave her newborn son or daughter. In some states there are adoption aid "Choose Life" license plates, with proceeds going toward advertising and adoption services.

Those in the health professions can become an "Adoption Specialist" after a free three-day training program. There is no requirement that this training inform trainees of the life-long emotional consequences of surrender/adoption to mother, child or other family members.

"My brother is featured this month in 'Teen Parenting' magazine," a friend said to me. It took a while for her words to sink in....Adoption is not about love - it is simply the business of getting babies for people who are infertile or gay. Adoption exploits women and families.

 --   from Teen Parenting blog